The Truth

The Reason I want you
is that all the reasons we aren't together are lies,
           all the reasons we lost what we had are lies,
                the reason we could not believe are lies.

Truth didn't tear us apart. Circumstances did.
The Truth is that we convinced ourselves of the lie
 that the other wasn't who we wanted them to be.

Had we known the truth from the beginning...
 Had we believed each other
 and listened to the unsaid
 we would have known it

 that we would be together true
 and apart false.

And nothing would have kept us apart.
Because we are what we want us to be.

WANT, but do not HAVE.

A healthy premarital relationship is composed of two people who WANT each other, but know that they do not HAVE each other.

If a person HAS another, then they take the other for granted. If they WANT the other, then they work at the relationship. If only one wants and the other has, then the relationship is unbalanced. Work at wanting and never think that you have someone. Because the moment you believe you have them, that's the moment you won't anymore. And then you'll want them all the more.

This is also applicable to pre-marital sex. The foundation of your life-long relationship should be built on desire, not lust. It needs to be built on WANTING the other not HAVING the other.

Of course once you exchange vows, it all changes.  But you still must be careful to keep from taking each other for granted.